“Politics ain’t
beanbag. ‘Tis a man’s game; an’ women, childher, an’ pro-hybitionists ‘d do
well to keep out iv it.”
~ Finley Peter Dunne, 1895
Politics are nasty
and complicated, and I doubt most of us could weather the election process or
the day-to-day decisions that must be attended to in leading one of the world
powers. I’ve always thought that I wanted to use my vote to elect someone much,
much smarter than I am, not someone whose intelligence I could easily eclipse.
I also want someone who can be both rational and intuitive: someone who cares
about people but also has the ability to think about the greater good. If I
voted today, I would vote for President Obama, just as I did in 2008. In my
mind he embodies both those qualities.
I think it’s safe
to say, “I’m liberal.” I’ve been called a bleeding heart, a socialist, a
communist, and some good adjectives, too, such as empathic, humanistic, and
caring. Caring is an important moral value for me, as it is for countless
liberals. We are all about creating a safety net and a level playing field for those
who are oppressed, victimized, or otherwise left on the fringes of society. I
realize that my liberal leanings mean that sometimes I will sacrifice my better
judgment in order to assist others. I’m not ashamed of that, but I know I lead with my heart and
not with my mind on many occasions.
I remember the
doorbell ringing at my apartment in the spring of 1979, when I was a senior at Syracuse University. I
was the only one home of the four of us women who lived together. I opened the
door, and it was a woman and her daughter. They were Jehovah Witnesses. The
mother handed me a copy of Watchtower,
then prodded her daughter to speak. The little girl was five or six, shy, and
severely developmentally and physically disabled. My heartstrings plucked a
melancholy tune as she struggled to get her words out. I ran over to my purse
and dumped out the contents of my wallet into the woman’s open hand.
Unlike two of my
other roommates, whose parents bought them cars, paid their rent, and sent them
monthly spending allowances, I paid for my share of the rent and my food out of
my work study money and the additional money I made taping books for visually
handicapped students. I worked thirty hours a week and carried a full course
load. Except for the daily rides I accepted to and from the school where I
student taught with one of my roommates, I walked every place else I had to go.
After dumping out my wallet in that woman’s hand, I would go without that week,
perhaps eating more peanut butter and jelly and less meat sauce and pasta, but
my heart felt good.
Thirty-four years
later I answered my doorbell again today. It rained all day today. When I
opened the door, holding my dog Ru by the collar, a man around thirty years old
stood in front of me, his umbrella upside down on my porch, and his large red
knapsack at his feet. He wore khakis, a plaid shirt, and a knit tie. His teeth sported
a lot of gold fillings, and several chipped teeth caused a distinct lisp. He
was selling “Grandma’s Cleaner” at $48.00 a bottle. I listened to his whole
story, watched while he sprayed the window on the door, wiped with a towel, and
left nary a streak. Then he spritzed a little on my wedding ring and shined it
up. He sprayed the cleaner on his clothes and in his mouth to prove its
all-natural makeup. He pulled my heartstrings, and I bought a bottle, after
which he took my hand and planted a kiss on it. My daughter Mackenzie, staying
with us while in transition to a new city, said, “Ma, why did you buy a bottle?
It’s probably a scam.” The seven
years she lived in New York City have perhaps made her cynical.
“I know,” I said.
“But I don’t mind.”
He was polite, and
he worked hard for his money. It’s no different than when Ronald picked up a
couple begging for a ride to the soup kitchen. He said that the place was about
to close as he dropped them off, and, had they walked, they would have probably
missed the only meal they’d get that day. Or when he handed the homeless couple
we often see downtown a twenty so they could get something to eat. See my post Get Up, Stand Up: Redemption Songs.
We both have soft
hearts.
Ma taught me to
champion the underdog, even though we were underdogs ourselves. Maybe that’s
why I understand it so well. I never thought being poor was bad, and Dad worked
really hard to support us, until he had his first heart attack and we were on
Welfare until he could go back to work. He cried the day the social worker came
and inspected our home as part of the application process. He was ashamed neighbors left bags of
groceries on our doorstep and rang the bell before running away. They knew Dad
wouldn’t take the groceries if he knew to whom to return them.
He didn’t think of
himself as one of the “victims, who believe that government has a
responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health
care, to food, to housing, to you name it.”
Mitt Romney, who
said the above quote in a closed door meeting with wealthy campaign backers,
never knew Dad. He doesn’t understand that you can live with dignity even when
you don’t have wealth. He doesn’t know Dad dropped out of eighth grade to go to
work to help his family. He doesn’t know how proud Dad was to put food on our
table and a roof over our heads, or that he worked double shifts as often as
they allowed him so we might have a little extra. He doesn’t know that Dad
pulled his own tooth, a rotten, infected molar, because he couldn’t afford to
go to the dentist. He doesn’t know that Dad suffered for days afterward, his
face gray with pain, but he kept going to work anyway. Maybe it’s for Dad that
I champion the underdogs.
Maybe it’s for my
father-in-law. He finished high school, moved his family up north where there
were more opportunities for black men, lived in the housing projects so he
could save money to buy a house, and worked for Millbrook Bread and a rag
dealer driving trucks. Then got his foot in the door at Niagara Mohawk, the
power company, after a group of blacks staged a protest outside the main
building because no blacks worked there. He worked as a janitor and studied at
night to become an electrician. After he applied for a promotion to a better job
posted on the bulletin board, he found his application in the job supervisor’s
trashcan the next day. He went to human resources, and they posted a job
especially for him. In the years that followed he became the first black
foreman at Niagara Mohawk, and he supervised the building and maintenance of
the sub-stations. He moved his family out of the housing projects and bought a
house on the eastside of Syracuse.
Read my post This Life We Live In.
Maybe it’s for my
mother-in-law who married at sixteen and didn’t graduate high school because
she was having her first child. When the youngest of her five children went to
kindergarten, she got a job as a bus monitor then worked her way up to being a
teacher assistant. She finished her high school degree and went on to take
college courses to obtain tenure.
Maybe it’s for my
husband Ronald who proved that you can grow up in the projects to serve your
community with honor and integrity while putting your life on the line every
time you show up for work. Ronald retired in 2006 as a Syracuse Fire Lieutenant after
serving for twenty-five years.
Read my post Fighting Fires.
I have a soft
heart, but I also know that being poor and uneducated is not the equivalent to
being worth less than those that came from wealth, privilege, and entitlement.
I know that a country that provides equal opportunity is stronger because its
citizens are more able. I know that if someone has a problem such as losing a
job, going through a divorce or a catastrophic illness, or living in poverty, that,
as a people, we should help that person until he or she can stand on his/her
own.
The conservative
view differs from that. It isn’t that conservatives are more heartless, at
least not all of them. But they view fairness as proportionality – if you work
hard enough, you will get your just rewards. If you don’t work hard, no one
will carry your load for you.
I get that, but I
also believe that when you are down and out, no amount of hard work will get
you through if no one gives you the chance to do the work. There may be people
who abuse the social programs we have established through the government. There
will always be people who take advantage. There are just as many wealthy people,
or maybe more, who use loopholes or keep their money in the Cayman Islands so
that they pay less than their fair share of taxes, or they cook the books to
increase their profits illegally. But why punish those, like my dad, who just
needed a safety net to get back on his feet? If we didn’t get Welfare back then,
I can’t imagine where I might be today. Maybe I wouldn’t have gone on to
college, or become a wife and mother, or become a manager for a multinational
corporation, or gotten two master’s degrees. Maybe I would not have been an
upstanding, contributing citizen who pays my fair share of taxes and also helps
out others when I can.
I read a
wonderfully informative book titled The
Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by
Jonathan Haidt, a professor at Stern School of Business, New York University. He has
spent his adult life researching moral psychology. He wrote this book to
explain why we find ourselves in this time of division, suspicion, and
uncooperativeness.
There are three
principles to his moral psychology theory: 1) Intuitions come first, reasoning
second; 2) There is more to morality than harm and fairness (there are actually
six foundations of morality: care/harm, fairness/cheating, loyalty/betrayal,
authority/subversion, sanctity/degradation, and liberty/oppression); and 3)
Morality binds and blinds.
Long story short,
we react to something a certain way, partially due to heredity and partially to
environment, and we develop reasons to back the reaction post hoc. Liberals
tend to view the world through a moral code that is based on the foundations of
care and fairness – they often take up causes of inequality and victimization.
Conservatives are more likely to see the world through a moral code consisting
of loyalty, sanctity and liberty. They believe in the individual, freedom, and being American.
That’s how we can
look at exactly the same situation and come away from it miles apart in
describing what we’ve just witnessed.
Haidt, a
self-identified liberal, says that conservatives are better able to rally
supporters to their causes since they are more likely to frame them using all
six foundations of morality, while liberals tend to tick-off conservatives
because their appeals tend to rely on just care and fairness. We have to learn
to strengthen our liberal stances using the other moral foundations, e.g.
emphasizing how we are part of the same group and that all group members will
benefit.
He also quotes
from the Bible when talking about our
differing moral stances.
Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s
eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? … You hypocrite, first take the
log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of
your neighbor’s eye. (Matthew, 7:3-5)
We have to stop
hating and accusing one another, and take a moment to listen and try to
understand our differing views. Why is that important?
Haidt says
liberals and conservatives are part of a whole, like yin and yang. They need
each other. In the past in our country, they worked cooperatively and got a lot
of wonderful things accomplished. Liberals push forward socially progressive
programs, while conservatives help shape fiscal responsibility. It’s been a
successful collaboration that helped build America into a world power. At this
time in our history, we are at an impasse and our country and our people are
hurting for it.
Humans formed
groups tens of thousands of years ago and began acting cooperatively. Groups
protected members and distributed labor, so groupism, as Haidt called it, or
tribalism, is an important trait. It is also a trait that leads to a kind of
blindness, because it is easy to become suspicious of outsiders or non-group
members and react with hatred and violence.
Now it seems our tribalism
has divided us in America. We’re blinded by our own group loyalty, liberals vs.
conservatives, and that causes us to dislike the other group. We need to learn
to work cooperatively again.
In an interview
conducted by Bill Moyers, Haidt said, “[We need to] share a conscience not an
ideology.”
I could use a
friend who isn’t afraid to tell me when my heartstrings are singing so loudly they
drown out all reason, and I am sure I can be a friend who can help convince
another that we need to fight for the underdog. At one time or another, we might
be that underdog.
Politics ain’t
beanbag. I want an intelligent leader who is both intuitive and rational and
who builds his moral conscience on all six foundations. Mitt Romney has proven
he has group loyalty and authority as his foundations, as well as liberty, e.g.
he has fiercely defended his right to keep his tax returns private, but he
missed out on caring and fairness when he said that 47% of Americans are not
deserving of his interest and leadership. President Obama is my pick. His moral
conscience includes all six moral foundations.
For more
information on Jonathan Haidt, his book is titled The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and
Religion, ISBN: 978-0-307-37790-6. Here’s the wonderful interview conducted
by Bill Moyers.
Thank you, Dianne. My Dad, too, faced discrimination and a legacy of poverty, and was proud to work his way up to becoming a machinist, a foreman, and then a small-business owner in "retirement." He never shirked. My mother gardened and canned and worked in factories and sewed. they struggled so that their daughters could grow up to achieve more.
ReplyDeleteWe need to keep telling our stories. Our experiences are what America is all about. We weren't unique or even rare, and the same story is played out over and over in millions of families. Romney's story is rare, and he is too pompous and out of touch to know it. Thanks for commenting!
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